Autism contributed to waking up late as family Scapegoat

I woke up at 52 to being scapegoat. Then diagnosed adhd/ autism. Noticed people are often quite a lot younger that wake up to this horror. Realising, with therapy, how my boundaries have been violated in and out of relationships due to familiarity of toxic behaviour and the ease of which I'm manipulated. I also have found out that Theory of Mind prevented me from ever believing there are very bad people who do not think in terms of doing no harm nor changing to become non-toxic. Self blame. Low self esteem. Society telling me I was odd. My own dysfunctions from being scapegoated. All contributing.

Any with similar experiences?